JOHN 13: 33 “My children, I will be with you only a little longer. You will look for me: Where I am going, you cannot come.
34 “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. 35 By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
In the first chakra I am only interested in me, & my feelings
When Jesus and the masters instruct us to love one another, they do not mean from one’s ego. Let’s examine how the ego may fool us. We’ll examine the first three chakras. In the first chakra I believe that the whole world exists just for me and for my personal needs. In this chakra I am only interested in me, & my feelings. Perhaps you have met some individuals who seem stuck here, who have healing to do in their first chakra.
In the second chakra we discover that we have physical and emotional feelings for others
In the second chakra we discover that we have physical and emotional feelings for others. WOW! As we move up the chakras those feelings will become more sophisticated. In the 2nd chakra they are somewhat primal, although we learn how to feel empathy for another. The Highest Purpose for sexuality is to ignite our creativity. Creativity enhances Life. You open your heart & soul to another. Hopefully sexuality opens you beneficially to the whole world. The 1st chakra sets free our Life force. In the 2nd chakra you use, or direct, that energy.
If you are in a healthy 2nd chakra relationship with a partner, and with yourself, you will feel a powerful sense of freedom. You will feel comfortable and exhilarated being yourself. If you do not feel accepted as you are, this is a red flag that ego has taken over this relationship. A person may unconsciously be using sexual energy to gain approval from another because of an unrecognized childhood trauma and wound. Deep within, there may feelings of inadequacy, or of not receiving enough love and affection. If our 2nd chakra energy is out of balance, we may develop feelings of distrust.
If the third chakra is clear and open you are able to move easily from your mind, as intellect, full of information, to the wisdom of your instincts
If we find ourselves unable to step into our personal power our third chakra becomes affected by the imbalanced 2nd. Our childhood experiences play a significant role in the healthy development of these first three chakras. We take the strong creative energy of the 2nd and act on it by recognizing our passions. We listen and dance to the beating of our own drum, rather than following along to someone else’s beat. We find the strength of the third chakra to help us take a stand if we feel something is not right, or fair. We follow our own inner urges rather than live under someone else’s authority. We act from our own personal power. If we haven’t healed issues of doubting our self, our partner will make us grapple with this. You may find yourself losing confidence over what you want, or defending your feelings, which means the ego has stepped boldly in as your emergency self-defense. If the third chakra is clear and open you are able to move easily from your mind, as intellect, full of information, to the wisdom of your instincts. In every cell of your body, in your gut feelings, lives your inner knowingness. Any unsettling feelings in the solar plexus are warning signs that all is not well.
Here is where our energies can really become emeshed. If our ego has jumped into rescue us, it will bring with it an arsenal of judgment, prejudice, and limiting beliefs rather than holy discernment. Holy discernment allows you & me to recognize – from a place of harmonious neutrality – whether something is right for us without having to attack another. Ego labels our perceived “opponent” as an enemy, an obstacle. The ego makes that event, or that person, wrong and inferior. If only we would trust our gut about what isn’t feeling right… without psychologically attacking the other as “difficult” or “bad.”
This is where we have to develop our compassion, to turn over the fire in our belly, for another’s situation and feelings. Does this mean we put aside our passion? No. Quite the opposite! We do not cut off the energies that we feel surrounding issues, even though in our families we have been taught that full-blown feelings are not appropriate. If we keep them in check, if we suppress ourselves, we will become bitter and suffer.
Where pain exists, the ego is operating, not the soul. We are in anguish because of ego, because of its attachments and dependency, which we often mask as love. But ego resists the natural flow of love, and that contraction causes us pain. A soul-to-soul relationship commits to the essence of another without roles. Assigning a role to someone restricts and limits him, or her. Once someone is your partner or lover or spouse or whatever, then the ego enforces rules about that role, how it should look, how everyone should behave. Who needs that?
Ultimately you and I walk this journey alone
Ultimately you and I walk this journey alone. Others come and go. The real journey in internal, as we learn to know and claim our wholeness. No one else can do that for another. A partner does not accompany you. A partner is having his or her own journey. You do not accompany him, or her, for you have your own tasks to do. You may walk side by side at times. That is a gift. But your agendas are not the same. No matter how similar your journeys may appear, your partner or your children’s journeys are not the same as yours. Growth means learning to walk beside all beings, acknowledging similarities and differences, and continuing to hold your agenda and to allow them to hold theirs. As you walk your path, simply be in love. Rest in Love. That is maintaining your integrity. Whether a relationship lasts for an hour, or for a lifetime, encounter each person whom you meet, in that moment, soul to soul. If the two of you decide to dance, do not worry about how long the music will last. Do not worry about its duration. The act of dancing, the joy of dancing is enough.
The soul is ever satisfied. The soul is ever renewed. And so it is. Amen.